Honor, Duty, Mission

I am writing today in honor of my uncle who passed away this week. As I remember him, I remember him as I did as a child. I candleflameremember playing with him a lot. He was like a giant teddy bear. He was always kidding around and getting me all riled up. I think he was one of the first people in my life that really brought out my natural spunk and fire. Boy could he get me fired up! Haha! Growing up with him and an abundance of male cousins taught me not to take any stuff from any random boys on the playground, that’s for sure!

I have to say that even today he has me pretty riled up. My uncle passed away due to complications related to a hernia. A hernia that brought him to the hospital on three different occasions.

Why am I so fired up?

I’m fired up because he was just in his early 50’s and now he’s gone because of something that probably could have been repaired. I just learned that on his previous visits to the hospital, he was told that his hernia could not be repaired until he lost weight. I’m fired up because he never got help to lose the weight so that he could have surgery that may have saved his life.

I’m fired up because our health-care system seems to be more of a crisis-care system. I’m fired up because doctors, nurses, and other health-care professionals do indeed save many lives when someone is suffering from an acute crisis, but they don’t know how or have the time to help people make the necessary lifestyle changes needed to shift courses in their life and avoid the crises in the first place.

I’m fired up because I could have helped him to lose weight so that he could have had his surgery, if only we had known to reach out to one another.

I worked in surgery for over seven years as a surgical technologist and, originally, my plan was to get my nursing degree, just like my mom, and continue working in surgery. However, the more I worked in surgery, the more I wanted to help people before they reached the conditions of the patients that I saw everyday.  So instead, I decided to study sociology and eventually earned my Masters of Social Work. I chose to focus on mental health and medical social work because health and wellness really requires you to consider the whole individual and the environment in which they live. Compartmentalization does not create total wellness. Later, I decided to become a certified health, wellness, and lifestyle coach. Though I have taken a winding path towards fulfilling my mission to help people live longer, healthier, happier lives, my feet are firmly planted.

Needless to say, my fire has been amped up a thousand degrees this week. It is my honor, my duty, and my mission to do what I can to help people live longer, healthier, happier lives–both on the individual level and the macro-level.

So in honor of my uncle, I say, Thank you for always knowing how to get me fired up.

My fire will forever shine bright.



About Tiffany deSilva

Hi I’m Tiffany deSilva, MSW, CPC, CHC, Founder of BrightFire Living, LLC. I am a social worker, speaker, author, certified health, wellness and lifestyle coach, certified green living coach and toxic-free consultant. I am passionate about helping women like you to detox each area of your life, safeguard your family’s health, and live life fully charged and completely lit up! I am on a mission to empower women and families who are managing food allergies, autoimmune disorders, and other modern chronic health conditions to live a safe, happy, and healthy life that truly lights your fire!

Feedback & Comments:

  1. Tiffany, my condolences for the passing of your uncle. I really resonated with your message and you are right on about crisis-care rather than health-care. It’s so sad that your uncle didn’t get the help he needed. It sounds like your professional experience in health-care really fueled your fire and passion to do what you do now. I’m sure your uncle is so proud of you and what you are doing and how you are helping people around the world. Big hugs.

  2. I am so sorry to hear about your uncle and agree that our health care system is not at all helpful for situations like this.

    I hear your fire and passion and we need people like to you to help change the system. I know your uncle will be proud of you

  3. So sorry to hear about your uncle’s passing – we are very fortunate here in Australia that we have a great health system however even with that we still have a focus on disease rather than wellness. It is more of a health system not a health CARE system.

  4. Sorry for your loss. He sounds like he was a lot of fun!
    Don’t get me started on my family experience in the
    health care field as we know it in this country. One day
    it is my hope they will see the light and change the system.

  5. Tiffany, please accept my most sincere condolences upon the loss of your beloved uncle. What an absolute pity that he received only acute crisis care and no one in our broken health care system could help him with his underlying weight problem.

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